Our previous article 10 Talents that Pinay Women Find Sexy received a lot of attention because let’s face it – Filipinas are awesome. Unfortunately, it only began to touch the surface of what talents Filipinas find most attractive.
We’re not going to lie, though – this set of talents takes quite a bit more investment than the others we mentioned previously. In most cases, the path to mastery lies within you alone.
But dammit, we know you’ve got it in you.
Let’s get right into it and give you 10 more talents that Pinays find absolutely sexy.
Why it puts you ahead of the pack: Leadership is absolutely a talent. While some might claim that it’s inborn, most experts agree that it can definitely be learned.
In any case, it’s accepted that people who display a knack for leadership are generally seen as more attractive. But why is that the case? Evolutionarily speaking, being attached to the leader of the tribe is the gateway to an easier, more secure life. This is still quite true in the Philippines, which may seem somewhat modern on the surface, but is undeniably still tribal in mentality.
Showing that you have the capacity to lead can signal to Filipina women that, yes, their life just might get better if they were to stick with you. And once they’re invested, they may find it hard to leave, especially if you provide them with the security they were looking for.
2.) Being good with money
Why she’ll see more than green: You might have noticed even ugly guys can get women if they have modestly successful businesses. While they might be a bit coy about it sometimes, Filipinas value men who are good providers. What’s more, they can usually tell the difference between flash and substance. A man who’s frugal but not cheap can show that they know how to plan for the future while still appreciating the finer things in life.
While they may like it if you’re able to show them a good time, the ones worth being with will definitely notice if you’re not able to keep things together. You don’t need to own your own business either. A man with a so-so income that manages to pay for all the essentials and keep some money in the bank will over time, tend to have better prospects than someone who spends it all on toys and other flashy items.
3.) Knowing how to mentor others
Why she’ll be dying to know more: Women definitely hate mansplainers. However, data from Tinder shows that male teachers are definitely crushing it on the platform. Being a teacher demands a combination of patience and smarts, which are always a plus.
Of course, not all of us can be teachers, nor do many of us wish to be, given the incredibly low salaries teachers are given in the Philippines. However, being able to show that you are both intelligent and patient with others without being condescending can be a huge turn-on, regardless of the gender you’re attracted to.
4.) Being good with children
Why it revs up her maternal instincts: Studies have shown that women tend to be more attracted to men who act paternally. The child does not necessarily have to be the man’s own either. It could be a sibling, the woman’s child, or basically any child the woman sees the man in contact with.
While it’s disputed just why this might be the case, it may be because it presents proof of the man’s suitability as a mate. In other words, there’s no second-guessing, because she can see the proof right in front of her eyes.
However, not all men are able to deal with children. Unsurprisingly, this can be rooted in immaturity. It also can be caused by negative experiences the man himself had as a child. In either case, it’s important for every man to know how to treat a child, because one day, you might become a real father yourself. And thanks to low contraceptive use in the Philippines, it tends to happen when it’s least expected.
5.) Knowing how to deal with animals
Why it will awaken the animal within her: Some of us might be surprised that despite the fact that animal lovers seem to be an incredibly potent force online, many guys have no clue about how to act around them. This is unfortunate because knowing how to handle animals can often signal to women that a man has a caring, emotional side and is able to take care of other things as well.
Plus, it’s been scientifically proven that having a pet can make you significantly more attractive to women. And it’s not an insignificant improvement either. In a collaborative survey by Match.com and PetSmart, researchers found 35% percent of women said they were more attracted to someone because they had a pet, and 76% of women evaluated dates based on whether their pets liked the person.
Plus, it’s probably more relevant in the local setting, as Filipinas are just more culturally attuned to the idea of gigil, which is often badly translated in English as “cute aggression”. This can mean that their feelings for cute critters may just transfer over to you – that is, if you know how to treat them right.
6.) Having a sense of humor
Why it’s no laughing matter: Women love men who can make them laugh — for good reason. We judge people by their sense of humor both by their ability to tell a joke, as well as their ability to take one. We often assume that people who have a good sense of humor are intelligent and observant, both qualities that are highly desirable in a mate.
As a matter of fact, it’s theorized that humor itself evolved when our smarter ancestors exploited the joy that comes from unexpected observations as a way to bond with others in a social group.
Evolving your own personal sense of humor takes time, and plenty of practice, particularly when it comes to reading the emotions in a room, as well as with your timing and delivery. And while you may not always be able to deliver a joke, it’s also important to show that you can take and understand them as well.
7.) Knowing when to be quiet
Why it speaks volumes: There are times to speak up, and there are times you should just say nothing. While a woman might initially mistake your motor mouth for confidence, chances are she’ll get pretty tired of it soon.
The desire to give your two cents on every single situation can signal insecurity or the lack of emotional maturity. In the Philippine setting, being overly talkative also plays into outdated-but-still-present stereotypes of gay men. While this is obviously BS, it’s worth keeping in mind if that’s not what you want to seem like, early on.
8.) Good listening skills
Why she’ll be lending you more than just her ears: Let’s face it: the world is terrible, and we all need someone we can rely on to listen to us vent and tell it like it is. Knowing how to listen and give the right responses — even when you don’t really feel like it — can make anyone feel valued.
But as anyone who’s been in a lasting relationship will tell you, active listening is much harder than it seems. It takes a while to sort out which “conversations” are merely validation-fests, and which ones require serious input. However, it’s a talent worth learning, and one that’s absolutely necessary if you want things to last.
Why she’ll be feeling it — in more ways than one: It’s one thing to listen to her and act on what she says. It’s next-level, catch-of-the-century talent to show that you are able to understand her even when she says nothing, or says something else altogether.
One problem Westerners (and a lot of Filipino men, to be fair) often have when dating Filipinas and other Asians is that they often feel that they have to be almost psychic to understand what the heck their partners want.
Despite the fact that we live in a hyper-connected, modern world, Filipinas are still generally not as open about their opinions and feelings as women from other countries. This makes it incredibly important to be able to pick up on cues that she might be giving and makes it crucial to piece together seemingly disparate parts of your relationship.
In this context, knowing what it is you should be doing before she even tells you is a frustrating, but necessary part of relationships with most Filipinas. It’s necessary to listen, observe, and make reasonable judgment calls based on the limited, often contradictory information.
You can, of course, make it easier on yourself by finding someone who will meet you halfway. And with that, all we can say is – good luck.
10.) Knowing how to sing
Why it will make her tune in: We already covered the benefits of being musically-talented in 10 Talents that Pinay Women Find Sexy. However, it bears pointing out that while any kind of musical proficiency is a plus, Filipinas tend to like a guy who can sing more than anything.
Karaoke is such a huge part of many Filipino’s lives, often featuring in many important social situations. While not everyone likes karaoke, it is all but unavoidable during fiestas and visits to some people’s houses. How one sings and conducts themselves during these sessions can be a huge turn-on for many Filipinas, especially if you are able to nail a song you know holds meaning for her.
Thankfully, singing can be an enjoyable experience. Give in to the music and practice her favorite songs in the car or in the shower. A few singing lessons can’t hurt either, as being able to sing at least somewhat in key will put you way ahead of everyone else.
There you go, more talents that will make you particularly attractive to Pinays. What other talents can you add? Tell us in the comments!