By the time we reach adulthood, most of us men are aware of at least some signs that a woman is attracted to us. Classic clues such as fixing her hair, slowly smiling and playfully teasing you are some of the more obvious and easy to read. However, things aren’t always this cut and dry as different women tend to behave differently when they have a liking for a guy.
Increasing your chances of hooking up with a lady involves some skill in recognizing attraction even when the signs are more subtle. More often than not, you need to react quickly when a woman takes fancy on you. If not, you risk making her think that you’re not interested. The last thing you want to happen is to waste that opportunity and compel her to set her sights on someone else who can read the signs.
If you want to get that next-level sense of a woman’s behavior when they’re attracted, this post is for you. These are the 7 subtle signs that a woman likes you:
1. She Mentions You to Common Friends
If you guys have common friends, try getting a feel of whether or not she tends to mention you to other people when you’re not around. If a woman is strongly into you, it’ll be hard for her to get you off her mind for very long. Even when she doesn’t mean to, your name will pop up every now and then when she’s conversing with others. If what she has to say about you is flattering, that’s an even better sign.
If you just met her casually at a night spot or over the internet, you can still get this kind of clue. If you guys have been in contact for a while and you’ve gone out once or twice, she might say in a casual conversation that she’s told a close friend about you and the things that you did together. If she drops this hint, it’s all but certain that she likes you. If she doesn’t like you, she wouldn’t even mention you to someone she trusts.
2. She Responds to Casual Messages
When a girl is into you, there’s no reason why she wouldn’t want to communicate and draw you closer. She’ll be interested to hear from you and she’ll be equally inclined to find out more about you. If you want to test a girl’s level of attraction towards you, try sending her non-practical and open-ended messages.
Don’t ask about work, activities or school: most people will respond to those and it will say close to nothing about how she feels for you. Responding to messages about these is considered common courtesy, while not responding might be considered rude. However, asking how she is or how her day was instantly tells her that you want to get a little more personal. Responding to messages like these is considered generally optional and you can’t really begrudge her if she doesn’t feel like it.
If she responds to you within minutes, that’s a great sign. If she takes more than that, that’s still a good sign especially if the verbiage looks enthusiastic. If she responds to you after 24 hours, that’s still a positive development especially if the tone is light and she asks you how you are as well. Keep in mind that some girls just want to make you wait to test you a little bit.
3. She’s Willing to Extend the Conversation
It’s not hard to get into a conversation with a girl. When approached nicely, most ladies will be polite enough to respond and exchange a few lines with you. However, going beyond simple pleasantries is a completely different matter. It takes a certain level of attraction on the part of the woman for you to proceed past simple hi’s and hello’s. If she’s not feeling it and you try to press forward, you can have a really awkward situation on your hands.
When talking to her, try to notice if she looks straight at you. If she maintains eye contact while you speak to her, that’s a really good sign. If her body language seems open, her arms aren’t folded or she’s not putting any objects between you like her purse or a table, that’s even better. If she doesn’t try to excuse herself from your chit-chat the first chance she gets, it means she’s willing to give you a chance to charm her and escalate things a little more.
If she seems really engaged in the conversation and makes an effort to Segway into different topics, you’ve got yourself a winner. Women only engage in lengthy talks with men that they just met if there’s a certain level of interest.
4. You’re Not Competing with Her Phone
Whether you’re talking to a woman you just met or you’re out together for dinner, notice what she does with her smartphone. If she always seems to take calls, answer messages or check her social media accounts while you guys are together, that’s a bad sign. It means that the interest level is low and you’re competing with everyone else in her social circles for her attention.
Conversely, if she has a phone but chooses to put it in silent mode and leaves it in her purse, it means she’s highly interested in you and she wants to make the most of your time together. When women check their phones a lot while they’re with a guy, it’s because they’re trying to kill time or find a way out of their “predicament.” If this happens while you’re with a lady, cut your losses and find another target.
5. She Wants Info About You
You may not realize it, but there’s such a thing as half-hearted flirtation. It’s when a woman converses with you but isn’t really into it. She may go through the motions, answering questions and responding with one-liners to what you say but won’t do anything else unless you do something that really catches her attention.
When a lady is really interested, she’ll ask about you. Simple things like where you work, which college you went to, and where you’re originally from are good starters. If she asks about your family, your interests and your dating life, that’s a step higher.
When a woman is into you, she’ll ask about your particulars so she can gauge the level of compatibility between the two of you. If she asks you directly, it’s also a way of building trust and becoming more emotionally intimate. If she asks other people about you, you know that you’re on her mind and that she’s just doing some final checks before kicking things up a notch.
6. She Notices Your Good Points
In the same way that you take note of every feature on the new car you’re planning to buy, a woman tends to notice every good thing about you when she’s got a thing for you. If she regularly compliments you about your intellect, skills, looks or possessions, that’s a good sign. If she has something nice to say regarding things about you that aren’t so special, that’s an even better sign.
In a lot of other cases, girls may not be as straightforward about this. She may not give you a direct compliment about things that are obviously good about you. For instance, she might playfully refer to you as a nerd if she finds you intelligent. If you’re a gym rat and you’ve got a good physique, she might start calling you Bruce Banner. The important thing to remember here is to not take offense and recognize that the teasing is simply a veneer for her acknowledgement of your good qualities.
7. She Likes Contradicting You
Another not-so-obvious sign of a woman’s attraction is frequent contradiction. If you’re in the same workplace or social circle but aren’t exactly dating, a lady can make her interest felt by contradicting you or challenging your statements. While this seems like an annoyance to most men, the ones who recognize it as a sign of flirtation are in a good position to capitalize on the opportunity.
Women sometimes tease and contradict men when a man doesn’t seem able or willing to start engaging her in conversations. Contradiction prompts a man to open up and generate playful banter. The more vibrant the exchanges, the better the lady will feel especially if the man can show that he doesn’t lose his cool. If you can respond with witty responses without firing back directly at her, she’ll likely be even more impressed with you.
Remember: society still generally finds it odd for a woman to make the first move on a man. When women want to get started with flirtation and the guy they like isn’t initiating things, they might just be compelled to take matters into their own hands. However, the vast majority of ladies out there won’t walk straight up to you and tell you they like you straight away. They’ll do it in a manner that’s indirect, yet effective in getting your attention. Contradicting you is a perfect way to do it since even if you don’t reciprocate her feelings, she can back off without losing face.
And there you have it: seven subtle signs that a woman likes you. Do you know of other subtle ways ladies express their romantic inclinations towards men? Tell us in the comments below.