If we were to survey you on the things you think Pinay women find sexy, what would your first answers be? They’re likely to fall into the spectrum of: natural good looks, access to money, and popularity. While these characteristics certainly help a man along in life, we feel they’re not the only part of the equation. The idea of “sexiness” isn’t so fixed as to include these 3 things and exclude everything else. Rather, sexiness can comprise a number of things beyond these. Some good examples of what could make a man truly sexy in a woman’s eyes are: the way he carries himself, the way he engages with her, and the talents that make him unique as a person.
Let’s talk a little about the third thing we just mentioned: talent. Talent is defined as a “natural aptitude or skill,” but to the Ancient Greeks and Romans, a ‘talent’ was also a unit to measure weight and a unit of currency. There’s an interesting connection to be made here. A talent is something of value and something you can use to market yourself to others. In this case, if you really want to break ground in the dating scene, you should be using any talents you have to market yourself as sexy. That’s what’ll prove to a woman that, out of all the men out there, you’re one in a million.
That said, what are some of the top talents you can use to catch a woman’s eye? And is it possible to develop any of these talents later in life? Have no fear, because this article will give you the answers. We’re listing 10 talents we know Pinays find sexy, why they’re worth harnessing, and how to use them to your advantage (plus, some fun facts about celebrities, pop culture, and more!).
1. Being a sharp dresser.
Why it’s an ace up your sleeve: Of course looks matter, but having a handsome mug isn’t the only part of it. A girl will gravitate towards a guy who cares about his appearance beyond what’s naturally given to him. That includes hygiene, posture, and fashion. In light of this, you should have a penchant for styling yourself appropriately. Learn from the saying, “clothes make the man.”
How to develop your styling skills: First off, you should know what works for you and stick to it. More often than not, it’s less about the style of clothes you’re wearing, but rather how they fit you. Don’t wear anything too loose or too tight. If you need to, alter your favorite pieces of clothing to fit you better. Take note, too, of the colors you look good in, and arrange your wardrobe according to those. But don’t hesitate either to take a few small risks every now and then; something as simple as a watch or a pair of sneakers will draw attention to you, and will do so in a classy, understated way.Trivia: Pinoys are known to be big sneakerheads, and that’s no surprise. Sneakers are a mainstay of street fashion and culture, but it’s not uncommon to show off designer sneakers on the runway. And you need only to look at the red carpets to see how the stars show off their favorite pairs.
2. Knowing how to carry a conversation.
Why you should talk the talk: Few talents measure up to being a skilled conversationalist. A girl will want to feel like she’s talking to an actual human being, not a wall. That said, one of the first talents you should hone is knowing how to carry a conversation. Nothing will win a girl over more than charm, well-timed humor, and expression of interest in getting to know her.
How to shoot the breeze with her: When you get the opportunity to speak alone, don’t make the conversation a one-man show. Switch between talking and then listening to her. Riff off of topics she seems very interested in and ask insightful questions. Make use of positive body language, such as nodding your head or gesturing appropriately with your hands, and props like showing her stuff on your phone.Trivia: If you need help with conversation starters, we have a really good resource for you in the Proust Questionnaire. French novelist Marcel Proust believed that in answering these 35 questions, someone would reveal his or her true nature. Some questions in this set are: “When and where are you happiest?” / “Who are your heroes in real life?” / “What are your favorite names?” Any one of those should serve as great fodder for conversation and have you come off as curious and thoughtful.
3. Being good at a sport.
Why it hits the mark: A lot of guys out there are really into sports, and the ability to play a sport remains a point of sexiness to Pinay women. Being good at a sport likely makes a man more physically attractive, but it also demonstrates to a girl that a guy is focused, values healthy competition, and can grapple with complex processes in order to achieve their goals.
How to show off your prowess: There are a number of ways to bring sports into the picture. Take her to a game you’re playing in, show off a little, and then treat her out. Find out what sports she’s also into, and ask her out to watch a basketball or a volleyball game. It’s well known that both guys and girls love to show off their school spirit at University Athletics Association of the Philippines (UAAP) and National Collegiate Athletic Association (NCAA) games. Lastly, you can even try a sport with her while you’re out on a date. Interesting options are bowling and archery. Sports are all the more fun if she gets to play too!
Trivia: Did you know that the Philippine Basketball Association (PBA) is the second oldest basketball league in the world? It’s second only to the US’s National Basketball Association (NBA). That proves just how big a deal basketball is in the Philippines!
4. Being passionate about the creative arts.
Why it figures in perfectly: Girls will single out a guy who’s in touch with their artistic side. Being able to draw, paint, photograph, act on stage, or string a few words together—any of these will make you highly marketable. A good grasp of an art form, or even some interest in it, will show a girl that you’re creative, sensitive, and resourceful—and you won’t seem boring to her for a second.
How to bring out your inner artist: The best way to show off any creative talent you have is to do creative things with/for her. When you get to the stage that it’s appropriate to do so, draw her something simple, take a photo for her, or write her a poem. Play to your strengths. If you don’t have any of these creative strengths to speak of, you can always learn how to do any of these things better. There are also interactive venues to do so, like painting classes that you can attend with her.
Trivia: Several Filipino celebrities have also crossed over to painting, in addition to the jobs they’re known for. Actors Ian Veneracion and Tom Rodriguez are prolific painters, and so is broadcaster Julius Babao. Here’s a gallery of their works.
5. Having an aptitude for music.
Why it strikes the right note: It’s very, very sexy to a girl if you know how to sing or how to play a musical instrument. This study conducted by Nicolas Guéguen and a team of researchers from France’s Universite de Bretagne-Sud, released in the Psychology of Music journal, revealed that an already attractive man got more numbers from women when he was carrying a guitar case, as opposed to a sports bag or nothing at all. Indeed, music has the power to soothe the soul and energize whoever’s listening to it. So, to be sure, having an aptitude for music will catch both a girl’s eyes and her ears.
How to carry a tune or two: Contrary to popular belief, it’s possible to cultivate music skills even later on in life. It’s even easier to do so, as some hands-on music lessons for various instruments are free and accessible. All you have to do is search on YouTube for guitar, bass, or drum tutorials for the basic techniques and tips on how to play your favorite song (or hers!). Grab an instrument and start jamming!Trivia: Singer, songwriter, and lauded music teacher Ryan Cayabyab is the country’s newest National Artist for Music. His sweet, mellow, and richly textured works are a gem to Philippine music. If anyone tells you that there’s no purpose or future in being interested in music, cite him as an exception.
6. Knowing how to dance.
Why it will sweep her off her feet: Seeing someone dance well is a feast for the eyes. We agree with anthropologist Helen Fisher on her connection of dance and romantic love: a good dancer is extremely attractive to a girl because it demonstrates physical prowess, strong energy, and self-confidence. And so, if you want to up your sex appeal, go and bust a groove on the dance floor.How to move to the rhythm of her heartbeat: Even if you’ve got two left feet, it’s not too late to get into dancing. Like with music tutorials, dance tutorials abound on YouTube. If you want to learn particular steps, then you can mimic them slowly when you watch the tutorial videos. Remember that dance is not just about the method, but following the rhythm with your body. When you learn how to do this—and when you get over your initial shyness—it won’t be hard to keep up with a girl when dancing in the club.
Trivia: Arjo Atayde, who played the bad boy cop Joaquin Tuazon on the long-running Ang Probinsyano, wowed the audience on ASAP with his dance rendition of “Jump Shot.” We could take some tips from this guy about how to be flexible with our talents!
7. Speaking more than one language.
Why knowledge is power: Knowing how to speak more than one language also increases your sex appeal. To a woman, a man’s being bilingual or trilingual speaks leagues about how well a man can communicate. He will come off as open-minded, rich in perspective, and cultured. It’s already proven that proficiency in another language can help break barriers in business and in travel; language also has the potential to break outstanding barriers to relationships with the opposite sex.How to speak another love language: You could use some of your spare time to learn widely spoken languages like Spanish, French, German, or Mandarin. Smartphone apps like Duolingo can take you through some lessons on vocabulary and basic sentence structure, all for free. But you shouldn’t limit this skill to foreign languages; it will also help a ton to learn one of our own regional languages, especially if your romantic prospect hails from outside Manila. Brush up on how to speak a regional language with well-versed family or friends.
Trivia: Our country is already well-known for its linguistic diversity. Statistics authority Social Weather Stations (SWS) cited Filipino, Cebuano, and Hiligaynon as the most common languages spoken at home in a 2014 survey. In other words, the likelihood of your potential date being a native speaker of these 3 is high.
8. Knowing how to cook.
Why it turns up the heat: The saying goes that “food is a way to a man’s heart,” but that definitely applies to women as well. A woman’s appetite for love, as well as delicious food, will be piqued if her date knows how to cook. If you learn how to whip up more than one good dish, you’ll be seen as nurturing, creative, and organized.
How to tickle her tastebuds: Even if you live in a man cave, there’s no excuse to not knowing the basics—chopping with a knife, peeling, cooking rice, using seasoning. Past these techniques, you should also learn how to choose good produce, dress up dishes with simple garnishes, and do meal preps. These are life skills that could benefit your general health and wellness, as well as your date’s palate.
Trivia: All you need is a glance of celebrity influencer Erwan Heussaff to see how cooking skills appeal to Pinay women. Erwan’s blog, The Fat Kid Inside, features simple cooking methods that any guy can follow. The blog also serves as a testament to Erwan’s big weight loss journey and how he keeps himself fit and healthy in the aftermath.
9. Being a great driver.
Why it puts you in the fast lane: A car is a highly useful accessory in scoring dates. Having a car signals wider possibilities for going out to different places, traveling longer distances—and, well, private time with a girl. It follows that a talented driver is sexy to a girl. Being good at driving signals that you’re in control, are good at getting places, and willing to take a girl around anywhere she wants to go.
How to buckle up with her: This one’s a doozy if you already know how to make the car move. Show her you’re a good driver, and an all-around good guy, by keeping your car speed manageable, following all traffic rules, and mastering new routes. It’s also a huge turn-on if you know how to drive manual as well as automatic.Trivia: Want to know about the top 5 automobile brands that keep Filipino men cruising? A consolidated report from the Chamber of Automotive Manufacturers of the Philippines, Inc. (CAMPI), the Truck Manufacturers Association (TMA), and the Association of Vehicle Importers and Distributors (AVID) show that these brands are the kings of the road: Toyota, Mitsubishi, Hyundai, Ford, and Honda.
10. Being good around the house.
Why it rings close to home: It speaks extremely well of a man, and does wonders for his sex appeal, when he becomes good at doing the ordinary things. A range of small skills that will immediately gain a woman’s approval are: knowing how to clean like a pro, knowing how to diagnose a leak, and being good with hand tools. Of course, these are things that show a woman that you’re a man’s man—responsible, levelheaded, and worthy of taking home.
How to be a man of the house: Especially if you’re looking for a long-term partner, master all the skills you can that involve your home. Moreover, keep your place clean, organized, and well-furnished, so that neither you nor your date have any qualms about a house visit. If you’re over at her place, volunteer to help with housework as well.
Trivia: The Pru Life UK Relationship Index (PRI), a survey conducted in 10 countries throughout Asia, recorded the top traits that Filipinos find attractive in the opposite sex. The top quality is “we enjoy doing things together.” Surely, that can extend to the menial things, like fixing up one’s home.
There you have it, our detailed list of talents that will draw Pinay women to you. Now that the New Year’s begun, it’s a great idea to add any of these items to your (dating) resolutions.