Having a car has benefits that go far beyond taking you from point A to point B. In the Philippines, an automobile is definite advantage for men in the dating circuits. Not only is it a sign that you have some financial capability, it also works like a de facto private place where you and a woman can have some time away from everyone else. While a good woman will inevitably choose a guy that she feels is right whether he has a car or not, it’s also undeniable that Mr. Right is even righter when he arrives for a date on four wheels.
Of course, having persuading a lady to join you in your car isn’t a guarantee that she’ll be yours anytime soon. The advantage of having a car can be lost if you don’t know how to play your cards right. Certain behavior within a vehicle can shift a lady’s opinion of you from positive to negative, so don’t be feeling too sure of yourself just because you got her on your passenger seat.
With that in mind, we put together a list of things that you should simply not do when you have the girl you like in your ride:
1. Smoking in the Car
You’d think only pre-public smoking ban jeepney drivers and cargo truck “pahinantes”did this, but you’ll be shocked how many private vehicle owners persist in doing this activity even these days. They may not do it in broad daylight on busy metro Manila streets, but they’ll take their liberties with tobacco with their windows down at night. As a non-smoker, I’m not quite sure how they get off on this, but it either makes these men feel like total bad-asses or they just can’t hold their tobacco cravings in check even for a few minutes.
Needless to say, smoking is bad for your health and it’s even worse for people around you who inhale the second-hand smoke. While it’s truye that many women find the bad boy schtick sexy, don’t put her attraction towards you to the test by lighting a stick in the middle of a car ride. The only exception, of course, if she’s a smoker who’s at the same level as you. In which case, she might actually enjoy the activity and join you.
If you’re not concerned much about your respiratory health or the opinion of your lady friend, at least be concerned about the car itself. Cigarette smoke clings to your car’s upholstery and will take a major cleaning job to get rid of. In some cases, evenb replacing the upholstery won’t make the faint scent of cigarette smoke go away. This can seriously damage your vehicle’s resale value, shortchanging you when it the time to sell and replace your ride comes.
When driving a car for a lady, the operative term is “cruise control.”The goal is to make her feel comfortable inside your vehicle and that starts by driving in a manner that feels safe and relaxed. The more comfortable she is, the more open to conversation she’ll become and the further you can take your romantic agenda.
If you’re driving in an open highway or a street that’s not too busy, cruise along at the recommended speeds. Tyere’s no need to show that you and your car are capable of things she’s seen only in the Fast and the Furious movies. It’s easy to think that it’s a boss move to floor the gas and show her you won’t get into an accident, but all you’ll really do with a stunt like that is make her uncomfortable – possibly terrified. Even if she likes you, she may not want to get in a car with you again for her personal safety.
3. Snake Driving
Snake driving is basically driver behavior on a traffic-congested road road. It’s all about finding little cracks and crevices between vehicles and squeezing your car in just to gain a little ground. It’s all about changing lanes all the time and managing not top get your vehicle’s body clipped from all the singit it has to do. Think of the typical bus driver or motorcycle driver in EDSA, but with a private car and you’ll know exactly what we mean.
It’s unprofessional and aggressive behavior on the road that’s technically not illegal, so a lot of people take pride in their ability to pull it off. While lane-switching is part of everyday city driving, it’s best done in moderation and in a way that doesn’t aggravate the traffic situation for everyone else.
If youy think you’re impressing your lady by being a snake driver, think again. Studies have shown that women are quietly against aggressive behavior on the road and are more comfortable witrh calmer, level-headed drivers who place a premium on safety. Most women understand that traffic is part of life on the road here in the Philippines, and she won’t mind being in traffic a few more minutes as long as she gets safely wherever it is you guys are going.
It’s illegal and it’s uncommon among private vehicle owners, but don’t think for one second that this time-honored tradition among Manong Drivers is dead. Drivers young and old from all walks of life have done this at some point in their lives on the road but when there’s a lady in your auto who’s paying attention to your every move, you better try to rein in that urge.
Spitting isn’t only unsightly, it’s also unsanitary. Doing it while your traveling at decent speeds means you’re resking having the spit fly off on other vehicles or worse, come right back to your cabin through your own open window courtesy of the wind. If the saliva ball gets on the right trajectory, it just might find its way to your lady passenger. While bodily fluid sharing is normal among couples who are intimate, it’s not cool when you’re just starting to get to know the girl.
5. Taking on Multiple Phone Calls
Persuading a woman to ride with you is a golden opportunity to connect with her on a deeper level. You can converse more freely away from prying eyes and the eavesdropping of people around you. More importantly, you can do a little more flirting and she’ll have less inhibitions to respond positively because of the privacy that the car brings. Therefore, minimizing distractions should be made a priority.
That means avoiding phone calls whenever necessary. Unless you’re expecting one that’s urgent or very important, let your friends, family and colleagues wait. If you have one of those newer vehicles which lets you connect your smartphone to the speaker system viia Bluetooth, disable that feature for now unless you want your passenger to hear everything you and the caller are talking about.
Taking one call is fine, and maybe two is understabndable. Anything more than that is a nuisance and will be disruptive to the flow of your conversation with the lady. Taking too many calls may also give a woman the impression that you have too much going on in youir life, leaving potentially little time for her if you guys ever become a couple.
6. Playing Loud Music
Playing music inside a car is usually a good idea. It eliminates dead air and it can help set the mood for good conversations. However, some men tend to overdo things and play their music a little too loud. You may have a nice subwoofer which can deliver funky beats, but that doesn’t mean you have to flaunt your sound system just to make a good impression.
If anything, music can become a distraction if it’s played too loud. If the lady isn’t a fan of the genre you like playing in your ride, things might become even more unpleasant for her. Keep in mind that you can get the best results with a girl in your car when she’s at ease with you and her surroundings. If that means lowering the volume and playing softer tunes, by all means go for it. The last thing you want is the two of you having to raise your voices while seated beside each other just to decide where you guys will have dinner.
Getting physical with a girl isn’t an exact science. It has to happen at just the right time when the lady is ready. A lot of times, men fail to read the non-verbal signals that ladies tends to give off non-verbally when they’re ready for a little physical contact. This usually results in either wrist-slapping rejections or missed opportunities. Granted, both situations are bad but the former more so than the latter as it might leave the girl thinking you’re a pervert.
When a woman is in your car, she’s implicitly communicating that she has some trust in you and is comfortable enough to be in an enclosed space with only you. You need to validate her trust by not crossing certain lines before she’s ready. Even when she’s directly expressed her liking for you, you can’t assume that it means you have the green light to get physically intimate with her.
To make sure you steer clear of miscalculations, keep your hands on the steering wheel and the stick shift while driving. If the girl likes you and wants to take things to another level, she might just do the reaching herself. If you feel she’s the conservative type and is ready, start by reaching for her hand and not her thighs. The hand is relatively a safe part of the woman’s body and won’t be a deal-breaker between the two of you even if you mess up.
If she lets you do it or even reciprocates, you know you’re on to something. Try to keep it at that as anything more can be considered dangerous driving behavior. Just escalate things when you guys are somewhere more private and non-moving.
8. Letting Clutter Fester
Nobody likes a slob. Whether it’s in your appearance, in your rooim or in your car. If you have the habit of storing clothes, gym equipment, electronic equipment, good or even trash in your vehicle, at least clear it all out before picking a girl up. A messy car doesn’t just make a bad impression – it also makes girls less than comfortable to be in your vehicle. This could make her l;less willing to open up and engage you in dialog that would take things to the next level.
If you absolutely need to keep some of your things in your car, at least store them in the trunk. Clutter makes your car feel more cramped and hot than it actually is. If you have time, you should have your car washed and have the interior vacuum-cleaned before giving your lady friend a ride. A clean, gleaming car promotes positive feelings even before she gets in and you’ll likely be greeted with a warm smile as she gets seated. Don’t forget to get off and open the door for her if the situation allows it.
And there you go: eight things to avoid doing when you’ve got a girl in your car. Did we miss anything? Leave your tips in the comments section below. Drive safely!