While it’s true that Filipino men aren’t the most fashion-conscious males in the world, we’re by no means shabby dressers. Most of us will at least wear clean, decent garments that are appropriate to wherever we’re going. When it comes to first dates, we exercise common sense and put in a little extra effort into what we wear. First impressions, after all, tend to last.
Unfortunately, common fashion sense isn’t a gift that every grown man in this country possesses. Some haven’t outgrown their high school clothing habits while others just don’t care what other people think of the way they dress. If you’re in the dating circuits, you’ll want to maximize your chances at success with the ladies and consistently dressing up in a way that’s pleasing to female eyes certainly helps.
If you’re going on a first date with a lady soon, you’ll definitely want to make a good first impression. To increase your chances of making that happen, here are a few things you should NOT wear on that initial meeting:
While first dates are rarely ever formal, that doesn’t mean you should wear shorts to any of them. It doesn’t matter what brand your shorts are and how expensive they may be. Shorts are way too informal and will send the implicit message to a girl that you didn’t think or prepare much about your rendezvous.
For the most part, pants are a safe bet. Khakis are particularly good because they can be worn casually or semi-formally. In some cases, you can also go with jeans as long as you have the right shirt to complement it, creating a look that can pass as smart casual.
The only exception would be if you’re meeting her in a beach or poolside setting. If the backdrop is as informal as that, then by all means wear walking shorts. And oh, try not to come to the date with just your shorts on – even if it’s near a body of water.
Sandals are popular footwear in the Philippines thanks to the comfort that comes with their padding and their open design which keeps your feet cool even on summer days. While they’re ideal for idyllic strolls, they’re probably not what you’d want to put on if you want to make a good impression on your first date.
Sandals look very casual and they communicate implicitly that you’ve got a very nonchalant attitude towards your date. While it’s true that you should dress comfortably on a date to promote a relaxed atmosphere between you and a lady, it doesn’t necessarily mean you should look like you put zero effort in how you look during in this important occasion.
It doesn’t matter how nice-looking your sandals are: you should still wear shoes at least on your first time out together. Whether you’re wearing sneakers or leather, clean shoes indicate that your time with her matters to you. It also adds an extra layer of elegance to a carefully chosen outfit.
3. Ripped Jeans
While we said earlier that you should wear pants to your first date with a girl, it doesn’t imply that just any pair will do. The kind of pants you choose should promote style as well as decency. You can even veer towards a more casual look by wearing jeans – just make sure that they aren’t of the torn variety.
Ripped jeans can be stylish in certain situations – just not when you’re seeing a lady for dinner in a good restaurant. The last thing you’ll want her to think is that you’re headed towards a heavy metal concert afterwards. There’s even an off-chance that your date might find ripped jeans sexy on you but as far as first dates are concerned, you’re better off playing things safe and eliminating the possibility that she’ll think you look trashy.
We get it: you’ve been working hard in the gym and you want to show off the guns. You may even have some intriguing arm tattoos that you think will make interesting conversation pieces. In all probability, you can make an impression on a lady with both these bodily attributes, but it’s not gonna happen if you wear a tanktop on the very first date to show them off.
Tanktops are on the same level of informal as shorts and ripped jeans. In the Philippines, men who wear sando when going out are often assumed to be either bodybuilding fanatics or gay. Sometimes both.
While that stigma isn’t true all the time, the last thing you’ll want to happen is for a lady to second-guess you.
Besides, nobody likes seeing a dude’s armpit hair over a dinner table. Even more so if the dude tends to perspire heavily and the beads of sweat can be seen coming from everywhere including… yeah you get the idea. Stick to shirts.
In a vacuum, there’s nothing wrong with bonnets. They’re basically fabric headwear that cover the entirety of the scalp area. They can be pretty comfortable in the colder months and some of us look pretty badass when we have these on.
Unfortunately, the bad elements of society have taken a liking to these headwear due to its ability to conceal a person’s hair and make him harder to identify when he doesn’t have it on. Preferred by thieves, holdapers and pickpockets, bonnets unfortunately have become associated with petty crime in the Philippines.
If you’re going on a date with a lady whom you just met, you may have to forego the bonnet for now. You’ll want to make sure there’s no chance she’s threatened in the very least and she doesn’t get the odd feeling that you may have shady “sources of income.” Once trust is established and she knows for sure you’re a good dude, wear that bonnet all you want.
6. Your Work Uniform
If you work for an organization that requires employees to wear uniforms, you’ll want to bring a set of clothes and take the time to change after your shift. You may be proud of your job as a firefighter, a bank officer or a PLDT line man, but it’s not the ideal look if you want to make a great impression with a lady.
Going to a date in your uniform, like many other items in this list, communicates to your lady friend that you’re not putting any thought into you’re meeting with her. It also means that you’ll be seeing her in a relatively unfresh state, making you look less attractive than you actually are. You can take less risks with your date simply by packing a fresh set of clothes – or even just a fresh shirt – and putting it on before you go out to see her. While you’re at it, be sure to wash your face, gargle some mouthwash and put on some cologne. These little things will make all the difference between you looking haggard and outright dashing.
7. Unpressed Clothes
Virtually any set of clothes, no matter the price or brand, can hurt your dating success rate if you wear them straight out of the laundry shop. As an adult male, you’re expected to at least take care of yourself and your personal belongings. If you go out with a lady looking like a slob, you’re subliminally telling her “I can’t even take care of myself. What do you think is gonna happen when we enter a serious relationship?”
You may take at least one bath a day and you may wear only clean clothes, but if you don’t care enough to iron them before putting it on, you’ll still look like crap. A girl may like you, but if you’re giving off signals that you can’t take responsibility even for your own clothes, you’ll start to erode the initial attraction that she has for you.
Simply put, find time in your schedule to press at least the clothes that you’ll use when you’re on dates. If she works in the same place as you or you tend to run into each other regularly, you’ll want to wear pressed clothes all the time. If you don’t know how to do this yourself or are too busy to do it, just pay the laundry shop a little extra to do the job for you.
And there you have it: seven things that you should absolutely not wear on a first date. Did we miss anything? Let us know in the comments section below.